Carol Moehrle
It is wise to direct your anger toward problems—not people; to focus your energies on answers—not excuses. ~William Ward
When was the last time you were really angry? Some people become only mildly angry and hold the feeling tightly to themselves. For others, anger roars like a lion.
I continually talk to adults about how to handle anger. It is important that we learn early in life to deal with our thoughts and feelings and not express those feelings with negative energy. My wish in this world is that every child could learn to deal with their own frustrations before they become angry, and would not focus that anger on other people. By the time we become adults, we should have learned this skill. However, many adults still don't know how to handle anger.
Before you show anger, consider what is making you feel this way. We often blame another person for our anger when we are really responding to a situation or problem that is frustrating us. Recognizing the problem allows us to put our energy into finding solutions rather than blaming others.
Our lives are busy and complicated. There isn't room for anger. If you find yourself angry with someone, take a step back and determine what the underlying problem is. Acknowledge the problem, remove the human component, and focus on solutions rather than letting the anger grow inside you.
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